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Phone Distraction: The Modern Zombie Apocalypse

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If you look very carefully, you will start to notice they are all around us. The zombie outbreak is silently plaguing our communities, our homes, and our relationships. Observe while sitting at your kid’s swim practice or at a friend’s party.  Better yet, pay attention as you simply walk down the street, the walking dead are among us.

The modern Zombies are everywhere! They sleepwalk while consuming their hand-held devices in a flurry of hunger. Not feeling full and going back for more with bloodshot eyes which dart from browser to app. In the mist of mindlessly passing time on a regular basis by staring at your smartphone, the Zombie is not even aware of how serious their condition has become. In other words, phone addiction has become the modern Zombie apocalypse.

You may ask yourself, when did it happen? When did I turn into someone who is so dependent on my phone? Parts of your life start to blur together, and you never feel like your fully living your life. For example, you are home in the evening trying to spend quality time with your family when a work email or text dings on your phone. With valiant effort you try to resist. But it’s no use, you get sucked into the phone and out of the present moment.

Dazed and distracted – signs you are becoming a Zombie

1. You Can’t Sleep 

The undead don’t sleep and neither will you when you keep asking Siri question after question. Do you find you have a hard time putting the phone away at night? For example, you may think of random questions you NEED answers to. As a quick reward, you have Google at your fingertips to satisfy your curiosity. Or perhaps you can’t stop looking at social media or playing your favorite game on your phone.

How to fix it: Plug your phone in to charge for the night in a place you can’t mindless reach for it. If you use it for an alarm, have it close enough to hear the alarm but far enough away that you can’t scroll through it. Furthermore, when you wake in the morning, try to do something without your phone for the first 15-30 minutes in the morning.

Ideas for quick mindful morning activities to help combat phone addiction:

  • Do a wake-up yoga routine https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEEsdXn8oG8
  • Write down your goals or intentions for the day
  • Go for a walk
  • Take 5 minutes to meditate or do breathing exercises
  • Drink your coffee somewhere pleasant, and journal your feelings
  • Write what you are grateful for

2. The phone is causing anxiety and distress 

If you can’t find your phone for 5 minutes you are in distress, let alone if you discover you have left home without it… torture! In fact, some people may feel like their whole world is inside their phone. The extreme connection can lead to disconnection to people and relationships that really matter. Ask yourself this question, “Have any of your friends and family ever asked you to put your phone away when they are talking to you or when you are out together?” This may be the first sign of phone addiction.

Additionally, having information always within your reach can cause you daily stress. Because of reading too much Twitter, New York Times, or searching Web MD, you have more anxiety about the world around you. Furthermore, if you have a thought or a worry, now you also have endless information on the Internet confirming your suspicions.

How to fix it: First things first, you need to admit to having a problem. If you answer yes to the following questions, then you may be too dependent on your phone and need to admit to yourself that you have a phone addiction.

  • Is picking up your phone and looking through it the first thing you do in the morning?
  • Do you have a hard time putting the phone away for an hour or more to have quality time with friends or family?
  • Do you treat your phone like a person? Is it as important to you as some of your relationships?
  • Are you always checking your phone during “boring” activities like standing in line or going to the bathroom?
  • Do you find yourself viewing and answering texts, tweets, and emails even when it means interrupting other things you are doing?

3. Multitask is your middle name 

It seems impossible to even watch TV anymore without scrolling through your phone. Are you so addicted to the high speed of instant gratification that multitasking is your go to drug of choice? Consequently, being fully engaged is something that you have not felt in a while. 

How to fix it:  Mindful activities are the opposite of multitasking. Doing one task at a time with your full attention is how you combat the frenzy of doing too much at once. To begin practicing this, set a timer for 15 minutes and see if you can do just one activity without any distractions. You can try this with eating lunch, doing chores such as cleaning or work projects. The key is to stay fulling engaged in just one task. Therefore, if it’s eating lunch then put the phone away and focus on the taste of the food, taking one slow bit at a time and tasting your food fully.

4. Losing track of time and becoming a mindless Zombie

Do you find yourself mindlessly checking your phone many times a day? In addition, are you doing this when you know there is likely nothing new or important to see? You get sucked into a time trap of unproductivity and mindlessness. The phone likes to play tricks on you and make you think you are being fruitful because you are doing something. In reality, like a Zombie, you are wandering around aimlessly looking for brains (or in this case data) to eat!

How to fix it: There are settings on your phone where you can check your “screen time” to see your usage and statistics. You may be surprised with how much time you spend on your phone every day. Take small steps to reduce usage. Make it your goal to cut back small amounts every day (like 15-30 minutes) and see how different it feels to be more connected to things other than your phone.

5. You put yourself in danger – Don’t become a Zombie

Most of us are aware of the dangers of texting and driving but are guilty of doing it because the addiction to those notifications are just too strong. Why does the text to a good friend feel so important that we have to answer immediately? Do we really need to check our social media account while driving?

How to fix it: This is another area where you can build your mindfulness muscle. Driving while texting is also known as distracted driving because you are not fully engaged with the act of driving. Can you challenge yourself to be in the present moment while driving? Will you be able to silence your phone before you get into the car to block out those temptations?

Mindful activity: Start to drive and notice what you are “looking at” as you drive. What do you see through your windshield or in your mirrors. Now become aware of what you are “hearing,” and start to listen more closely. Notice the sounds you hear. See how long you can keep this up while you drive. Come out of your zombie state of mindlessness and start being purposeful.

6. Social media is stressing you out 

If you are going through personal struggles, social media could be something that you find brings you down more. You may need to run from looking at your newsfeed like you would run from Zombies. People often show their “highlights” reel or work hard to show the world the wonderful life they have created. We don’t see the reality of other people’s lives on social media. Check out our blog “The Comparison Trap” to read more about this subject.

How to fix it: The truth is, LIFE IS NOT PERFECT! Life is messy, complicated, beautiful, hard, and everything in between. Nonetheless, without the dark there is no light. So, dedicate yourself to start living your imperfect life and commit to phone-free time every day. If your phone-free time is from 6PM-8PM, make sure everyone in your house knows that the expectation is that electronics will be off. Or better yet, try to go out without your phone!

In conclusion, you may have realized that you are part Zombie or know someone who is. There is good news… The human part of us is still inside, and we need to reconnect with it.  Force yourself to have phone-free time, find time to be fully engaged in something you love, and truly listen to those around you without distraction. Before you know it, you will feel more connected with the alive, vibrant world around you!

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